Education & Advocacy

Education and Advocacy are two of the main goals of Richmond PFLAG. Our members regularly take part in forums and discussion groups. We also supply speakers for public events. But don't worry, we don't make anyone march in a parade or carry a banner! We know, from experience, that everyone who comes to PFLAG is at a different point in their journey to accept their Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgendered loved one (or themselves) -- which is why support for the parents, families and friends of the GLBT community is our primary concern. Our greatest hope is that one day groups like PFLAG are no longer needed because all of our children will have learned to live together as equals.

If you would like to request a speaker for your meeting or event, or you would like to invite Richmond PFLAG to join in a community forum please e-mail our chapter at pflagrichmondcoordinator@comcast.net.

In addition to Richmond PFLAG's Library you can also download educational pamphlets from the PFLAG National website on the following subjects.

Our Daughters and Sons: Questions and Answers for Parents of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered People.

Be Yourself: Questions and Answers for Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual Youth.

Faith in Our Families: Parents, Families and Friends Talk About Religion & Homosexuality.

Bisexuality Resource Packet

Opening the Straight Spouse Closet

Tips for a Happy Holiday

Tips for Professionals Who Work With GLBT Youth

You can also pick up some of these same pamphlets from PFLAG Richmond at one of our monthly meetings. See our calendar for meeting dates and times

 

Advocacy

Advocacy means taking a stand against the prejudice which our children face. At Richmond PFLAG we believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, but these opinions and beliefs do not entitle them to harass and discriminate against our GLBT loved ones. We know that not everyone who comes to PFLAG is ready to be an advocate or activist. We are all on different roads to acceptance of our children's sexual orientation. But advocacy takes many forms. It can be as simple as writing a letter to your congressman to protest or support legislation. It can also be the seemingly difficult decision to come out as the parent of a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered child to family and friends. Each person must decide what their own comfort level is. But while you decide where your comfort level is, please take a moment to look at some of the issues facing your GLBT loved one.

Marriage: Nowhere in this great country of ours can two people of the same sex get married. Vermont is the only state which has offered the option of Civil Unions which give gay couples many of the same rights that heterosexual couples have. However, outside of Vermont these unions are not recognized at either the state or federal level making them virtually useless.

Hate Crimes: Each year thousands of gay people are the victims of hate crimes. But most state and local governments, including Virginia, have done nothing to enact legislation that could deter these crimes.

Schools and Youth: We all remember how children teased and bullied each other in schools when we were kids. Very little has changed, and with more and more children coming out as gay at earlier ages, it is more important than ever that we try to protect them and all children who face teasing because they are different.

Parenting and Families: More gay and lesbian couples are choosing to become parents today than ever before. But because the law doesn't recognize them as a family, they are often denied even the simplest rights that all straight parents enjoy.

Reparative Therapy: This so called "therapy" has been discredited by most professionals in the medical field and has even been called dangerous and potentially damaging. Yet many gays and lesbians struggling to accept their own sexual orientation seek out the false hope of a "cure" hoping to change the way they were born.

Communities of Color: Because they are a minority within a minority, gay and lesbian people of color face prejudice on two fronts, both from the public at large and from within their own community.

Transgenderism: Our transgendered children are often misunderstood and discriminated against even within the gay community itself. They also have special challenges on the road to equality. Even something as simple as which public restroom to use can be a traumatic experience for our transgendered loved ones.

Civil Rights: Although great strides have been made in the past few years, our GLBT children still face many obstacles on their road to equality. In addition to marriage and parenting rights, our sons and daughters still cannot serve openly in the military, even though history proves that they have silently served with distinction and honor in the past. GLBT Americans in most areas of the country must still live in fear of losing their jobs or their homes if they are found to be gay. However, this is a road we can help them on if we are active in our communities.

If you would like to learn more about any of these issues please see the PFLAG National website